My personal Journey through infertility and
"He hath made everything beautiful in his time"
THE "FRUITS THAT WERE PRODUCED"
What "fruits" came out of the "chapter" (our
lives), of going through infertility and doing a
1) The birth mother came to know the Lord as her
personal Savior (through our friends that walked
her through the adoption), before the baby was
2) Our newly adopted daughter was given life and
a family to love her and raise her to walk in
the ways of the Lord.
3) My husband learned to trust God in the most
"inconvenient times". He ended up with a
beautiful little girl who looks just like him!
4) I learned to trust God and accept His plan,
not mine in all things. My plan was to have a
baby and God's plan was to give us a baby
through adoption for His own reasons and for His
glory. I learned to share my pain with other
women and encourage them to not give up on God,
themselves and their husbands while going
through the painful journey of infertility.
5) The Lord led me to start a support group in
Dallas through our church. We decided to name
the group "In His Time," taken from Ecclesiastes
3:11: "He hath made everything beautiful in its
time". I continually sat next to women (during
women's ministries, a weekly meeting held at
church), who were either going through
infertility or who were about ready to adopt.
I was so "lonely" in Austria, because I only
knew one other woman who was going through
infertility and she lived 45 minutes away from
us. Besides that, she only spoke German with a
Swiss German accent (she was from Switzerland),
which was hard for me to understand and
especially try to talk with her about
infertility! It was only natural for me to ask
other women (going through infertility), if they
wanted to get together once a week, for one hour
(in a small group setting at the church we were
attending), to share and pray for each other's
situations. We didn't have to "explain
ourselves" to each other and it was very clear
that being part of a support group was a big
encouragement to all of the women who attended.
I am so thankful for what God did in my own life
through the lives of may women, who attended the
group in the 7-8 years that I was able to lead
and co-lead the "In His Time" support group, in
a number of churches in Texas.
6) I learned most of all to wait on God for His
timing, cry out to God every day for His will
(not mine), and to love the Lord and what He had
to say to me, by trying to read the Bible every
day. Without reading the Word of God and having
others to pray for me, I am not sure where I
would be and what kind of decisions I would have
ended up making.
We do not know all of the reasons of why God
wanted our daughter to be in our family, but we
know for certain that she is where God wants her
He has made all things beautiful "In His Time".
To you, O Lord, I lift up my soul; in you I
trust, O my God. Do not let me be put to shame
nor let my enemies triumph over me. No one whose
hope is in you will ever be put to shame...Ps.
When our oldest daughter turned four years old
it hit me personally (very hard) that we were
raising an only child. Would she ever have a
brother or sister? Did the Lord want us to adopt
We had talked and prayed with her about the
possibility of adopting a baby brother or sister
and she was thrilled! We found out about a
Christian Adoption Agency which we were very
excited about. At that time our daughter was in
Kindergarten in a private Christian School.
Almost every day she would come home and ask me
if we got "the call" from the Agency saying that
there was a baby for us. That year she watched
the family of one of her best friends (in her
kindergarten lass) adopt a baby sister from
Russia. When that happened, she knew that she
was the only child "left" in her class who did
not have a baby brother or sister. It was very
painful to have that "set in" even though we
were so excited to meet this little girl from
Russia. When would God answer our daughter's
prayers? When the last day of school came, I
remember her getting in our van and asking, "did
we get the call"? I said no and then my heart
sank. I realized that she had hoped to tell her
class before school was out that God had given
her a brother or sister. I told her to not give
up. God had not forgotten about her. We will
keep praying and see what God does.